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A World of Access

(image description: a dark photo of a salt and pepper schnauzer on a blacktop road with a yellow line, a blonde wearing a blue coat is bent down with her hand on his head petting him).

I won’t say I’m an activist, I think it’s just caring
We don’t become activists because we want to, but because we have to
Activism is the only way we can even access the world

My first memory of activism is probably not my first actual instance
My brain protects me by blocking out huge portions of my childhood
I wanted to be in honors English classes
The TOD (teacher of the deaf) didn’t want to support me
My parents and I pushed
I said I would absolutely prove I could do it
We got access to the class – but not interpreters – and I did succeed

I learned sign language by having conversations
Slowly Haltingly Then my fingers flew!
And before anyone imagined I was signing more than talking
It made everything possible
Even with interpreters only in one or two classes – my grades improved

When I did have interpreters, I remember stares
Oh the deaf girl
I remember an interpreter banging the desk when I was writing
‘Look at me!’
I remember being afraid of them
I kept fighting that fear because I needed the language

Gradually the fear got worse
Fear of new places
Fear of yelling
Loud noises Rainstorms Missing the information Death

It was always there, shadow nipping at my heels

Until one day a grey dog walked across the blacktop towards me
It took us time, many many moments
Hugs, Meals, Snuggles
And all of a sudden he was chasing away the fears
He was telling me about the noises and information before I missed it
(Except for what people were saying – still missed that)
He made all the difference in the world

Shop Small Saturday

Black Deaf Businesses

Erry B Shop –

Deafinitely Dope –

Monroe Pedagogy –

Free Deaf Ricardo Harris –

National Black Deaf Advocates –

Deaf Creators/Businesses

Deaf Cartoonist –

Wood Stove Studios –

Deaf Family Matters –

Language Priority –

Sara Novic –

Mozzeria –

Crepe Crazy Baltimore –

Indigenous Creators/Collaborators

Oaxacan Black Clay & Kiona –

Baddie_Beadwork –

Nativeglam.Beading –

Teal Fawn Designs –

J Shine Designs –

A Decolonizing Daughter –

Whispering Winds Store –

Meal Prep Kits/Plans

In Baltimore

Jimmy’s Famous Meals –

True Meal Prep –


Clean Simple Eats (not Local – I like their meal plan books, but I don’t follow fitness/nutrition) –

Baltimore Shops/Reads

Vintage Views Bar –

Shop Arrow Clothing –

Hashtag Hannah –

Greedy Reads –

Rouge Petal Co –

Rachel Mulherin –

Spices in my DNA –

Budz & Blooms –

we’re all feeling this, amiright?

Amy Scripts –

Panemorfi Photography –

Black Shops/Creators

Bmoore Creations –

Briejai’s Bites & Delights –

Cocktail Crafty –

Lauren Leavell Fitness –

Romance By Myoshi –

Pandora’s Box Boutique –

Water For Chocolate –

Melmore Events –

Revive Health Life –

Apothecary Juice Bar –

Megapixels Media –

Scotch & Tea –

Dear Grown Ass Women Creators

Founder – Cyndie Spiegel –

Dear Grown Ass Women –

Oralism and Alexander Graham Bell

Thanks to the Memphis Oral school article I’m learning lots and lots of hearing people have no idea about the prevalence of AG Bell’s ideas and how he was one of the strongest proponents of oralism in the United States – his theories are still evident in deaf education today. 

“Oralism” which was the pedagogical approach of suppressing sign language in favor of speaking & lipreading. Oral instruction existed in the U.S. as early as 1840, with establishment of Lexington School and Clarke School in 1867, oralism established deep roots in the nation. Bell applied his study of eugenics to his goal of preventing the creation of a deaf race and presented his paper Memoir Upon the Formation of a Deaf Variety of the Human Race to the National Academy of Sciences in 1883. 

In this paper, he proposed to reduce the number of deaf people by discouraging deaf people from marrying others who are also deaf or who have multiple deaf family members. He suggested presenting legislation to prevent this as well. AG Bell also advocated for speech reading and articulation training (oralism) and removed the use of deaf teachers and sign language from the classroom – this is something we see impacting the community today as a number of teachers of the deaf are not deaf themselves. 

These strategies for assimilation into the hearing society presented by Bell still impact all areas of early intervention for deaf children today – seeing as 90 to 95% of deaf children are born to hearing parents. And the first deaf person these people ever meet is their child. Also, the first person to tell them about their child and deafness is usually a doctor or a audiologist, or possibly an educator, all professions that still see deaf people in ways impacted by Bell and his ideas. 

I’m sure I could go on… but let’s just say that sign language is not often brought up first by these professionals and many parents do not learn sign language for their children in spite of ALL the people I see saying of course they would and how abusive that is. 

Finally, I am just a Deaf person. My degrees are in social studies and history with a legal bent. I am not an expert by any means. Just wanted to say that this is what it is. 

(Also, I have linked the article in my comments but TW for audism and ableism).

Memphis Oral School Article.

Peanut Marinade Recipe

Peanut Marinade

  • Servings: 6 chicken breasts
  • Difficulty: easy
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1/2 C Peanut Butter
1/2 C Peanut Oil
1/4 C White Wine Vinegar
3/4 C tamari (or soy sauce)
1/4 C fresh lemon juice
4 cloves garlic
8 cilantro sprigs (or 4 tsp dried)
2 tsp dried red pepper flakes
2 tsp fresh ginger

Combine all ingredients, mix well.
With 1/2 of mixture marinate chicken for 2 hours before cooking (baking or grilling)
Use remainder of marinade as sauce to mix with ramen or rice noodles.
Chop the chicken once it’s cooked, and add to your noodles – one breast per ramen packet or bunch of rice noodles.
Chop some peanuts – roasted – and sprinkle them over the top of your meal.


There are lots of things I loathe about this city. And things I miss about life out west, but even I can’t deny that being away and coming back.

Each time Smalltimore seeps in just a little bit more.

The checkerboard neighborhoods: the Polish and Czech and Spanish and Greek and Italian and the black community that is being decimated by my race.

The hot summers, the humidity I thought I escaped by moving north, the rainstorms.

The winters that are so cold your nose hairs freeze when you step outside, and walking to the post is an adventure: will I fall on my ass or not?

I love the taunt of accessible transportation. It’s like the city knows it’s necessary but can never quite get it’s act together.

The bike advocacy groups in the city making me wistful for growing up in a place where bike access was matter of fact.

I love the hot nights on the stoop talking with the neighbors, mere feet away. From the old Eastern European grandmother to the young professionals next door – just like me but hearing.

It’s really a small town where we look out for each other and go at this life thing in a way that reminds me of times past.

My hundred plus years old house… creaky and drafty. But it still feels of people and eras gone by. 

The coal door is gone, but the dust and the crumbling brick remains in the cellar and may always.

Smalltimore, it feels more like home every time I come back to it.


Hi there!

Welcome to my lifestyle blog. I know, lifestyle is … well, it’s so many things. But here I will be writing about what it’s like to live as a Deaf, chronically ill, and disabled woman in a mostly hearing world.

My partner is also Deaf, so sometimes we luck out and we get to do things with other Deaf people – and that’s where we are most comfortable and most ourselves.

In addition, I am from Colorado. I lived there for almost thirty years, and the sunshine, mountain air, outdoors nature, and frankly, privilege is a huge part of my background. Now that I live in Baltimore, I am working hard to learn and unlearn all kinds of things about being a white person in a community that is much more diverse.

I am a yoga teacher, freelance writer, and home manager in my day to day.

Check here for topics to include: Accessibility, Deaf life, Community building, History, possible justice/law topics, body positivity/neutrality, fashion, pets, travel, and recipes!